When you are in a committed relationship for an extended period of time, you become accustomed to having sex with that same person. So much so, that the idea of having sex with someone else isn’t enticing. I have been there. I broke up with my ex fiance and continued to have sex with him. Trust me, it did not make the break-up easier. Although, I was comfortable with him sexually, he knew my body, my likes and dislikes, I had to put an end to it.

Some of your girlfriends might encourage you to get yourself back in the dating game immediately. I disagree. Whenever I experienced a big break up, per my girlfriends advice, I would try to rush into the dating scene and would spend the whole time while on the date thinking of my ex, comparing the new guy to him. It could be from the way he hugged me, to the way he spoke, to the way he walked. All, I could think was, such and such would always hug me this way and such and such’s voice is deeper

You probably spent a lot of your relationship investing into your ex. This is natural. It is what people do when they are in a relationship. They invest in the other person’s happiness and life overall. Now is the time to invest in YOURSELF. You only have to worry about yourself and your own happiness. Take advantage of this time and learn more about yourself. Spend some time alone and do things that YOU enjoy. If you want to spend more time with your girlfriends feel free to do that as well.

In addition to not being in his company you should also place any items that might belong to him that is in your home out of site. It is a lot harder to not think of someone when you have 20 pictures of him and you on vacations on your mantle, his shoes lined up in your closet and so on. Place his things in a box and kindly see that he receives them.